These days there are teenagers breaking up at the beginning of every season, and it’s hard to keep up. Your sister is on the phone with her long-time boyfriend one night, and the next night you can hear her muffled cries from the bedroom next door. Breakups happen, and I am going to tell you how to win every time.
Step One: Give Yourself Permission to Be Happy
There are some very scientific reasons why breakups are so painful. We are not here to argue about that. Rather, we are here to discover better ways to deal with that pain. Happiness is a decision; not a lucky happenstance. Look to the future rather than the past, and be good to yourself. Take some time to meditate, call up a good friend or return to a hobby you’ve neglected while you were in a relationship.
Step Two: Don’t Get Entangled in the “Who Finds a New Relationship First” Game
Step Three: Don’t Be Found Guilty of Trying too Hard
We are all blessed with the ability to see through people who pretend to be something they are not. You can recognize it in other people, and most likely, they can recognize it in you, so stop trying to fool them. No one is falling for it—especially you ex. If you really want to show your ex that you are fine and have moved on with your life, just keep doing whatever it is that you would normally do.
Step Four: Use the Renewed Freedom to Become Better Than Ever
Sure, there are cases where a partner falls apart after a breakup, but there are also numerous cases where one excels beyond what they ever thought possible. Now, to be clear, I am not talking about the partners who openly display on social media that their lives are better than ever. I am talking about the ones who make personal decisions to set new goals that will truly benefit their lives, such as going back to school, getting on a new or better career path, or training for a marathon they never had the guts to do before.
Lifting the Heavy Baggage
Look at the heavy baggage weighing on a troubled relationship (Any relationship is troubled if one partner is wanting to get out of it!). When that baggage is lifted, people are energized with a renewed spirit of desire and passion that enables them to reach beyond what they would have been able to do had they stayed in their troubled relationship. In other words, seize the moment!
In the end, the winning partner is not the one who appears to be the least bothered by the breakup. Rather, they are the one who learned the most from the breakup. The partner who reclaimed their own happiness, continued with their life as normal, and utilized some of that positive energy to strive just a little beyond their norm is the clear winner!