Do you hate your partner’s behavior? Differences in relationships can crop up all the time. After all, we weren’t all created in pairs that perfectly mesh with each other. But what do you do about it? And how do you sort those annoying differences?
In most relationships, couples learn to understand each other’s likes and dislikes and work around them to keep each other happy. But every now and then, there comes a few circumstances when we don’t really care about our partner’s opinions. And when that happens, ultimatums in a relationship may start crawling into your life.
No Signs of a Future Together
If you have a vision for what your future should look like—marriage, house and kids—your partner should have the same vision too. And more importantly, they have to want all those things with you. If you’ve been together for a long time and the future never comes up, chances are they don’t see you together down the road.
So how can be sure? Confront your partner and ask them what they want out of your relationship and if they see a future with you. Don’t settle for comments like” “We’re taking it day by day” or “I don’t like to think too far ahead.” If you want a future with them, ask for it. Just be prepared to hear something you may not like.
Your Communication Has Taken a Dive
Communication is extremely important when it comes to a successful relationship. If you feel like you and your partner aren’t communicating as well as you used to, bring it up to them. If you feel like you are doing all the communicating and talking to your partner is like talking to a wall, it might be time to put an expiration date on your relationship.
5 Years from Now
Can you see yourself with them five years from now? If communication doesn’t improve and they won’t make a commitment to you, do you even want to be with them five years down the road? If you see them not changing, maybe it’s time to move on. If you don’t, you might end up feeling very alone in a relationship.
You Blame Each Other and Fight Often
If you communicate by fighting, you know that’s a problem. If you are always blaming each other for everything that goes wrong in your relationship, you know there is a problem. If you constantly hurt each other with your words and actions, you might not be destined to be together in the long-term.
Healthy relationships are based on respect, understanding, communication and care. If you current relationship doesn’t have any of these qualities, chances are your won’t be together much longer. That’s why it’s important to put an expiration date on love. Give your partner time to change, but don’t give them an unlimited amount of time. Know when you’re going to move on alone. It won’t be easy at first, but time will pass and you’ll know you’ve done the right thing. Life is too short to put up with a partner who doesn’t love and respect you in the way you want them to. You can find the mature relationship you desire, as long as you don’t let anything hold you back.