It’s only natural to be a little insecure in bed. (Let’s just be real for a moment, OK? We’ve all tried to duplicate our O-face in the mirror and walked away horrified that’s how we look in the throes of passion.) But the beautiful thing about men is they not only don’t notice our oddities mid-act, they have no memory recall of them afterward either. They just had sex—what more could possibly be on their mind?! So, if you have some flaws or imperfections that make you self-conscious in the bedroom, take comfort in knowing your guy probably hasn’t noticed them. Here are five things men never notice in bed.
1. Your Imperfections
Has it been a few hours since you’ve brushed your teeth? Do you have acne, wrinkles, cellulite or stretchmarks? None of this matters. That’s because guys tend to see the big picture—meaning all of you. He’s not reducing your body to separate, flawed parts in the heat of passion. If you’re in bed with a man, his only concern is that you want him as much as he wants you. So don’t let your imperfections have a negative impact on your sex life.
A lot of women go to the trouble of buying nice, expensive lingerie, with the hopes of turning their partner on. While most guys can appreciate a nice set of lingerie, we don’t really care if it’s coordinated or not. According to some surveys, men prefer certain colors, like black, white or red, but they’re more focused on getting you out of it, than scrutinizing it.
3. Your “O” Face
Many women are worried about the faces they make when they have an orgasm. They wonder if they look silly or un-sexy. The truth is, a man expects you to make weird faces and even scream. If he’s going to notice anything, it’s your silence, so don’t hold back. Bring on the faces and the sounds—he’ll love it all. Your reactions let him know that he is doing a good job and pressing all the right buttons. Your “O” face is a significant part of your sex life.
4. Stubble Trouble
Are you worried about body hair? Some women feel like they have to be smooth and hairless for their guys, but the truth is a lot of men don’t notice the stubble. And some men prefer a more natural look. This means you don’t have to be as vigilant as you thought, when it comes to hair removal. It also means that a little stubble isn’t going to prevent you from having a night of sexy fun.
Sweat plays a huge role in attraction. It contains pheromones—chemicals that trigger sexual attraction and excitement. So sweat is a good thing. You may be tempted to cover it up with deodorant or perfume, and some studies suggest men prefer the smell of pumpkin or lavender, but your own body odor appeals to him, turns him on and does it for free.
Ladies, guys are thrilled when you want to have sex with them. They may not notice the pimple on your face, but they will notice your lack of confidence, so don’t let your imperfections ruin your sex life. When it comes to love, people tend to focus on the positive traits of their partners, while downgrading their flaws. If your partner makes unsavory comments about your imperfections, maybe they aren’t as in love with you as they claim to be. And if they aren’t, you definitely deserve better.