Have you thought of getting back with your Ex? Being single, would it be a better idea? Or should you just leave everything behind because in the first place your relationship didn’t work?
If you’re considering reuniting with an old flame, there are a few things you need to take into consideration first. Check them out below and decide for yourself is getting back together with an old flame is the right thing for you.
The End of the Relationship
What happened that led to your break up the last time you were a couple? Did you lose interest in each other or was someone unfaithful? The reasons why you broke up are very important when it comes to getting back together with an old flame. If you lost interest, then what would be the point of trying again only to lose interest once more?
If your old flame stepped outside of the relationship and was unfaithful, will you be able to trust them again? If your relationship ended due to other life events like relocation or a difficult time, then there may be some hope, but if the relationship ended badly due to your own mistakes, chances are you are not meant to be together.
It is important to understand your motives. Why do you want to reunite with your old flame? Are you lonely? Is there some sort of reward involved or do you still feel love for this person? Look at the real reasons why you want to reconnect with this person and make sure they are genuine before proceeding. You could just want to be in a relationship with someone and not your old flame in particular.
Know Their Status Before You Contact Them
If you haven’t talked to an old flame for many years, there’s a good chance their life has changed dramatically since you last saw each other. Maybe they’re married. Maybe they have kids. Maybe they live in a different part of the country or even the world.
You can do some Facebook stalking and check out their profile or Google search them. If you have friends in common, reach out to them for the details. You may like what you hear; you may not like what you hear. Be prepared for the good and the bad. Just do this as a means of avoiding major rejection.
Get Closure First
Before you attempt to rekindle the romance, make sure neither one of you needs closure. Do you need to apologize to an ex flame for something? Do they need to apologize to you? It’s about having a clean slate, and you need to start fresh if you want to make it work this time.
Leave the Past Behind You
If you want to go for a second (or third, or fourth, or fifth, etc.) round with an old flame, be sure to leave the past behind you. Don’t bring up old issues and talk about how things used to be. It’s all about the present and your future together.
Whether or not you choose to reunite with your old flame is entirely up to you and depends on what type of relationship you are looking for in your current life. Don’t set yourself up for major disappointment. Let go of the past and agree to move forward. And if it doesn’t work out this time, it’s probably not meant to be.