Make Plans First
Before doing anything, first take a good look at your situation. Do you have your own home or do you live with your partner? If you live together, then where will you go? Or is your partner going to have to leave? What is your financial position? The bottom line is that if you live by yourself, the breakup can be much easier and quicker than if you live together. If you live together, then make plans before getting free of your bad relationship.
How You Leave
After your plans have been put into place, the next thing to do is to decide how you are going to handle the breakup. How you leave is important and everyone’s situation is different. There are some people from whom you need to run away. There are other people that can get a text, email, letter or phone call. And there are those people who deserve a face-to-face explanation. Only you will know what is best to do. It is recommended that you do the right thing by your partner, unless your life is in danger. This way in the years to come, you will have peace of mind about how you handled the matter. Let love fill your heart for the other person before you communicate that you are leaving. This way you are less likely to get angry or upset as you speak. Let it be all about you.
The following are some helpful suggestions for various ways that you can get free of a bad relationship. Hopefully, there is a suggestion that will fit your situation or can at least give you ideas on what you can do or say:
When there is abuse, run and do not walk to the nearest sanctuary. The safe place can be with a family member, a friend or the police. You do not deserve to live in fear from the person who is supposed to love you. Your physical safety is first and foremost.
When your partner lives with you, and the breakup should be done face-to-face, plan in advance what you want to say. For example, “This relationship has not been working for me and we have not been happy together for a while. The issues seem to continue and I have decided that I want to separate. You are a good person. This is not about you. It is about me. Thank you for our time together.”
When you live separately, any form of communication can work—even no communication. Sometimes there are people to whom we just do not want to respond. Unless the person is not nice, then it is good to provide some explanation. For example, “You are a wonderful person. However, this is not the relationship I wish to be in at this time. I wish you well.” You owe no further explanation than that.
Love is Not Supposed to Be Hard
The wonderful thing about relationships is that they help define who you are, what you like and what you do not like. You have the right to take your own path. You have the right to choose an easier life. Love is not supposed to be hard.
Don’t Go Back!
It is most important to remember that once you leave, do not go back! If you are at the point where you want out, but find yourself going back and forth in confusion, then you are really not ready to leave. Should this be the case, it is not in your highest good to leave. Stay and try to figure things out. There is more to be worked out between you and your partner. However, if your mind is made up and you choose to separate, always go forward and never backwards. After all, there is a reason why they are called an “ex.”