A person’s life, while entirely unique, is all too often a repetition or reenactment of the past. Very often, we live out past prescriptions from parents and society without really questioning “what do I want?” Negative adaptations to our early environment lead us to develop traits we often don’t like in ourselves. In fact, the behaviors in us that we like the least are often negative characteristics from parents or other influential caretakers that we’ve taken on as our own. When we look closely at these traits, we can start to notice how they impact our careers, relationships and our goals in life.
Here’s what you need to know to live the life you want!
Your Life is Based on Your Choices
Every situation you’ve been in has given you choices. Some choices put you in places that have made you happy, while other choices have made you unhappy. And when you’re unhappy, it’s really easy to place blame or responsibility on another source. Sometimes it’s hard to accept that you are the creator of your future, but it does not have to be that way. Just because you get up every day and go to an unhappy job or feel stuck in a less-than-satisfying relationship or feel unfulfilled in life, it does not mean that you cannot change your situation. I’m not saying it’s always easy, but you do have the ability to change your life.
Leaving Your Life to Chance
Recently, I read a Mandy Hale (author of The Single Woman) quote on Facebook: “You don’t always need a plan. Sometimes you just need to breathe, trust, let go and see what happens.” I agree with her, and I would add that sometimes you have to make things happen. No, you can’t control the actions of others, but you can control how happy you are in this life. You can make things happen!
Living Someone Else’s Life
Are you living the life you want, or someone else’s expectation of what your life should be? Are you too busy trying to please others? Just like an oxygen mask on an airplane, you need to take care of yourself first before you can take care of others. Somewhere along the way people got the idea that they need to put everyone else before themselves, but you need to help yourself before you can help others.
The First Step
Find a way to relax and accept that life is full of uncertainty and conflict. Learn to feel self-assured when faced with conflict and uncertainty. This is a true sign of an epic evolution within you and it’s a major step towards making your wishes, wants and desires happen!
Ask yourself about your desires. Why do you have them? How do they align with who and what you are now? What are the current facts of your life? What do you need to change to get what you want? What will that change look and feel like. Imagine, in detail, the end result. Let you emotions feel success. Now give yourself permission to allow it to happen.
Identify the Blocks
Identify the roadblocks to your success and address them head on. Make a plan and don’t let anything stand in your way! Know that everything and anything your want is available to you. You have multiple opportunities. And, if you believe you are truly worthy of receiving what you want, then the only reason you don’t have what you want is the resistance you create by doubting yourself and by continuing to be unhappy.
We are powerful human beings with all the energy, thoughts and choices to create and manifest all we desire. Now, make it happen! If you need help focusing or identifying your blocks, know that I am always here for you.