Guys are, admittedly, pretty simple in the sack. They don’t require elaborate getups or complicated plots, just a little bit of an effort on the part of the ladies. While no one should dictate how you behave in bed, there are a few things you can do to please the guy in your life by keeping a few things in mind.
Communication for men and women is key when it comes to sex and intimacy. Talking about what you like, what you don’t like, and your sexual expectations will go a long way towards helping both of you feel comfortable and powerful in bed. No matter who your partner is, you should feel comfortable talking to them about your expectations when it comes to sex.
Communicating also ties into some of the things men like in bed; the first is talking dirty. Men don’t need you to narrate, but a few well-placed phrases can really get them going. Give him specific directions and talking about what you are feeling can be major turn ons.
Guys also want ladies to take control of their sexual experiences. Women who know what they want in bed are strong, sexy, and empowered. Telling your partner what you want them to do to you or what you’re going to do to them can be incredibly intimate.
Men also want their partners to bring up new sexual positions that they are interested in. If there is a new position or experience you want to try, bring it up to your partner. They might be more interested in those things than you expect! Even just talking about what you want to do in bed can serve as a form of foreplay.
Men want to be surprised in bed– all too often they feel the strain of keeping things sexy and fun in bed. Don’t be afraid to shake things up and introduce some fun toys, role playing, or positions into the mix.
Remember that guys are very visual. Positions like cowgirl and reverse cowgirl allow them to see what’s going on and are incredibly arousing. Guys like when girls touch themselves in front of them as well; this can give a guy a good look at what turns a girl on sexually, and how he can better please her in bed.
Everyone is different and getting to know what your partner likes and dislikes can go a long way to strengthen your levels of intimacy. Pay attention to what your partner is saying and doing during sex; their body language will tell you a lot about what they are feeling.
Finally, use your imagination and be creative in bed. Don’t be afraid to spice things up, especially when you feel like your sex life might have hit a bit of a slump. Take charge of your own sexual experience as well as his- being in charge and telling him what you want can be flirty, fun, and bring a spark back into your sex life.
Guys want what we all want- a partner who is present, engaged, and willing to communicate about sex in order to make the experience better for both parties.