If you’ve ever heard your grandparents or other elderly relatives talking about their relationships, you might have heard a few stories that had you more than a little bit confused. There are certainly traditions that have gone to the wayside since our grandparents were young, but some of these traditions, especially those regarding dating, are still applicable to the present day.
There are all sorts of habits that should stay in the past, but here are 20 old-fashioned dating habits we hope will make a resurgence in the present day. Which of these might you try out?
- Actually asking for a date. These days it seems like everyone is content to just hang out, watch Netflix, and keep things casual. This isn’t a bad thing necessarily, but it does take some of the specialness out of going on a real date. Call it a date if you are interested in another person- it’s fun and makes them feel important, too.
- Be on time. Part of the casual dating culture is that everything is relaxed, including your timing. If you really want to show someone that you care about them, be where you’re supposed to be when you said you’d be there.
- Date in a group. Studies show that we feel closer to our romantic partner when we’re able to show them off to a group of friends. Whether it’s a double date or a bigger event, show your special someone off to those you care about!
- Walk each other places. It’s too easy to pull up to the curb, honk your horn, or send a quick ‘here’ text. To make your partner feel special, actually get out of your car, walk to their door, and escort them on your date. They’ll feel appreciated and show their appreciation to you.
- Dress to impress. It’s always important to be comfortable around a potential romantic partner, but you also don’t want to give off the impression that you are a slob. Put a little effort into your appearance when you go out together- they’ll be proud to be seen with you, and be attracted by you at the same time.
- Keep your phone in your pocket. There’s nothing worse than sitting across the table from someone who can’t keep their eyes off their screen.
- Say thank you. If you had a good time on your date, call them and tell them. Phone calls are rapidly becoming things we don’t like to make or receive, but hearing the voice of someone you are excited about can be thrilling.
- Be honest and up front. No one likes to be confused after a date. If you’d like to go out with them again, make that clear. On the other hand, if you don’t see a future with that person, don’t string them along, either.
- Walk them home. Just as you’d pick
them up at their door, walk them back to it at the end of your date. Everyone appreciates a bit of effort, even at the end of the night.
- Grab a hand. Holding hands is an affectionate and kind way of telling someone that you enjoy spending time with them.
- Don’t rush things. We tend to throw ourselves into new relationships, especially on the physical side of things. However, there is something to be said about taking it slow and getting to know each other; you’ll feel more connected when the time is right.
- Don’t be afraid to say sorry. We all trip over our words and make a fool out of ourselves sometimes. Don’t be afraid to apologize to your partner when you’ve done or said something wrong.
- Don’t bring up heavy topics early on in the relationship. Things should stay fun and light until you both get to know each other. Always keep the conversation respectful, and know when to gracefully bow out of a difficult conversation you aren’t seeing eye to eye on.
- Don’t party too hard. Drunk and sloppy rarely makes a great impression on the person you are trying to impress. Practice moderation.
- Woo your partner. Treat your man like a gentleman, and treat your lady like a lady. We all deserve love, respect, and appreciation from our partners.
- Invest in their family and friends. You might not get along with everyone in their life, but you need to make an effort. These people are in your partner’s life for good, so strive to make the right impression.
- Give a little. It might mean swallowing your pride, but you need to stand out from the other people they’ve dated before. Be the person they compare others to by being polite, kind, and honest above all.
- Give compliments freely. Don’t say things you don’t mean but compliment your partner regularly. We all like to hear nice things about ourselves.
- Don’t double time anyone. Dating culture means that some of us are pursuing multiple people at once. This can be distracting and keeps you from really investing in a relationship that could go somewhere. Give each person a chance before you move on to someone else.
- Get to know them. Don’t just talk about yourself the whole time you’re together- find out what they like and try those things out with them. Who knows, you just might learn to like something new, too!
Dating is a curious game, but there are ways to impress your new special someone. Try resurrecting some of these old dating habits the next time you take someone out!