Spotting the Wrong Types of People
Many of us can’t resist the wrong types of people. There’s a lot of people wanting to be friends or can be more than friends with us but some of them have their own reason and motives either good or bad. When we were younger, our parents used to protect us and warn us about falling in with the wrong crowd. They gave us advises on how to avoid the wrong types of people. But in the end, most of us, didn’t listen. And just as we didn’t listen to others then, we don’t often listen as adults very well either—even to ourselves.
When our guts are telling us we’re following the wrong crowd, discounting those notions is usually our first reaction. But, if you take the time to step back and think it over, you’ll likely see that your parents weren’t entirely wrong and similarly your own feelings are usually on-point.
Wrong Types in the Workplace
You are the company you keep. In other words, if you’re hanging around with coworkers who are lazy, gossipy or who complain about their jobs day in and day out—even if you’re nothing like that—that’s not what the boss will see. It’s career suicide.So even if your work friends seem to have all the fun, they’re definitely the wrong types of people if you’re concerned about your reputation. So how do you resist the allure of the kamikaze work crowd? Just say you’re busy when it comes to lunch and happy hours and shoo them away from your desk when they try to reel you back in. They’ll get the message eventually.
Let’s jockey back in time to the 80s cult classic movie, “Heathers.” The Heathers were a popular and elite group of mean girls. They were the types you might know from high school, and the types you may have to deal with in adulthood. As their name(s) would imply, conformity is the key quality that bonds these types of people together. Getting into the in-crowd isn’t easily attainable, but if you do reach that goal, you’ll probably wonder why it was so important in the first place.
Any time you find yourself more worried about what others think than your own personal opinion, that’s a pretty good indication that you’re hanging with the wrong types of people. Any time you diminish your own beliefs to conform to the majority, you’re losing your identity one compromise at a time. Having even an ounce of individualism is taboo when you’re mingling with the wrong circles.
Wouldn’t you feel much better breaking free of the wrong types of people? Of course, alienation and banishment from the in-crowd is the minimum price you’ll pay for your rebellion, and being talked about is a freebie, but who cares? Just say, “I don’t mind, because you don’t matter.” Resisting the wrong types of people isn’t always easy because it’s not always obvious who the wrong types are. The good news is that once you realize your mistake, you’ll find that it’s easily correctable and absolutely liberating.