Being lonely is a hard situation to be in. We often feel lonely when we leave a relationship, when we move to a new city, when we lose a loved one, or when our internal selves are in disarray. Loneliness is just a feeling, and feelings pass; however, loneliness can linger with us for many years.
Loneliness comes in different forms. Sometimes we are lonely because of an event, and sometimes it is just a vague feeling that something is out of whack in our lives. You might be physically isolated from other people, or the loss of a spouse or close loved one can leave you feeling adrift.
Here are some ways to deal with feelings of loneliness and how you can move through these feelings to a better, brighter future:
- If you’ve started a new job recently, you can feel isolated and lonely. You need to make new friends and figure out where you fit in in this new office hierarchy. You might have left a job environment you really liked, with friends you enjoyed working with.
- If you’ve recently broken up or ended a relationship, this can also feel very lonely. You’ve lost a person who you confided in, who you trusted, and who you loved. This loss can be a physical pain, a feeling that something is broken. There will be songs that remind you of them, places you don’t want to go, and friends you no longer see because that relationship ended.
After a relationship ends, it’s important to start making new memories with yourself and with other people. When you’re ready, start dating again. Reconnect with your friends and with what makes you happy. Visit family and gain support from those around you who know you and love you. You are living and learning, one day at a time.
- If you’ve recently moved to a new city, you’re likely feeling excited and nervous. Exploring a new place is incredibly exciting, but it can also be challenging because you are doing it on your own.
Before you move to a new city, find out if you know anyone there. See if you have mutual friends or friends of friends who could help you transition into this place. There are plenty of options online for meeting up with others who are also new to the city and looking to explore.
- If you’ve recently lost a loved one, grief and mourning are natural. You won’t feel like yourself for a period of time, and you might find that the things and people that usually make you happy don’t anymore. This experience can leave you feeling lost and lonely; it is important to find support through family, friends, or a therapist who can lead you through this grieving process.
Loneliness is a feeling we all experience. Even though you feel lost and isolated, don’t worry- all things pass in time. Whatever your circumstances, be sure to keep an eye out towards the brighter future. You have so much to offer to new friends, at a new job, to a new city, and as you deal with the loss of a loved one. You can survive and thrive through loneliness.