Life can seem like it’s working against us sometimes. When things aren’t going our way, we have a tendency to lash out and blame the forces outside of our control. Although it’s tempting to blame others for our misfortune, this doesn’t get us any closer to solving our own problems.
Work to accept the present moment as it is, and whatever it brings with it. Problems, successes, joys, and sadness are all part of life and should be looked at as lessons, not as setbacks.
Whether you are dealing with the end of a relationship, a job you aren’t satisfied with, financial hardship, or another struggle, it might seem like life has it out for you. There are a few ways you can break yourself out of this thought pattern to gain a better perspective on life and how you can make it go your way more often.
Having the ability to assess a situation, especially a negative one, can allow you to expand your mind and see a broader range of solutions. Rather than sit back and have a pity party (which we are all prone to do), you can begin to sift through the pieces of your problem and create a solution that allows you to learn and grow. Ultimately, this is the best way to get through life.
Remember that negative events or situations in your life don’t have to define your future- in fact, they are just temporary moments in your life that allow you to become who you are supposed to be.
When faced with a problem, help get life going your way by:
- Being grateful. Being grateful even for things that seem negative is incredibly empowering. You can see the lesson to be learned in the bad situation you are faced with; you can see how you can overcome it. You can learn how to ask for help and where to ask for help when you need it. You can appreciate life as the good, the bad, and the ugly occur. You can see it all for what it is, and not just for how it makes you feel.
- See the situation as friendly, not as aggressive. Rather than see the universe as hostile, see it as a learning experience. The universe isn’t out to get you, nor does it have it out for you. Shift your attitude and your perspective on a situation by seeing it as just another challenge that you can overcome, not one that will knock you down.
- Look for the learning opportunity. Lessons in life are everywhere, and we have so much to learn from the people, situations, and places around us. When hard things happen in life, seek out ways to learn and grow. Rather than blame others, see the opportunity in the mess. One of the first things you can learn from a challenge is that your attitude is very powerful.
- Be on your own side. Stand up for yourself, your needs, and your feelings. You matter. If a challenge arises and you feel silenced or brushed aside, take a moment to regroup and refocus your intentions. You deserve to be heard and respected alongside everyone else; stand up for yourself, and others will do the same.
- Learn to share. Share in the hard times, the good times, and the in between times. Learn when to ask for help and when to give help. Be supportive and expect support in return. Learn to compromise with your family, your friends, your co-workers, and others you share your life with.
In the end, remember that life isn’t always going to be easy. We don’t have control over a lot of things, nor should we. When life presents you with challenges, remember that your reaction to these situations defines how you will overcome them. You can be discouraged by life, or you can embrace its many lessons today.