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How to Get Life to Finally Start Going Your Way

“Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy.” ~Eckhart Tolle

Have you ever had a big financial expense knock you down?

I had one of those situations hit me many years ago. I had just gone through a tough break-up, was experiencing regrets about my career choice, and was also struggling to get on my feet financially.

I was feeling beat down and decided to try to lift myself up by getting my finances in better shape. I was able to cut some expenses and, over the next few months, was able to tuck away some extra money in a savings account.

shutterstock_115565686I stood up on shaky legs, and that mean old universe kicked me right back down again, like I belonged there or something.

I started evaluating my options.

Could I fix my car myself? No.

Did I have a friend or family member that could help me fix it? No.

Then, I happened to see a reference to a quote attributed to Albert Einstein, “The most important decision we make is whether we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

The universe sure seemed hostile to me at the time. The quote sparked my curiosity. Can we really make a decision about what type of universe we live in?

What if the universe wasn’t being mean but was being friendly?

I decided to test out this new way of thinking.

Instead of acting like everything was happening to hurt me, I shifted my attitude. What if this situation was happening for my benefit?

I started digging around in my mind, looking for any thoughts about what could be of benefit to me in the situation.

I was grateful that my car was working again and that I could travel to my job. I was grateful for the job, which was allowing me to pay for my living expenses. I was grateful that I had developed the ability to save.

I didn’t have to let this one financial setback define my future.

All of these new thoughts helped me go from thinking that the situation was unfair to something more empowering.

Thinking about the universe being friendly helped me stop beating myself up and start treating myself like a friend with my thoughts.       

The next time you feel like things are happening against you in your life, try the following:

1.Explore gratitude.

Is there anything about the experience that you can be grateful for?

Exploring gratitude made me more aware of the things that were beneficial in my life that I was taking for granted. Appreciating what I had in my life helped me to feel more positive about my circumstances.

2.Make friends with the situation.

My initial negative thoughts about my car repair situation were only serving to cause me to suffer.

Shifting my attitude and searching for more positive thoughts changed the meaning of the situation.

Instead of feeling stuck and hopeless, I started seeing opportunities to improve my situation that were within my control. This allowed me to become more optimistic about the permanence of the current situation and also about my future.

3. Look for the lesson.

When difficult things happen, look for the lesson you are learning and how you might be growing from the experience.

It has been many years since my experience with my car and savings account, and I realize now that I may have needed that little kick from the universe to help me grow and learn about the benefits of having funds set aside for emergencies.

One of the best lessons to learn is that it is possible to choose your attitude and shift your thoughts to a more positive track.

While it may not always be easy, if you treat the universe like it is your friend, you may just find that the universe mirrors your friendship right back to you.

4.Stand Up for Yourself

Realize that your feelings, needs and wants matter. The next time someone tries to brush you ideas aside, stop them in their tracks. Make it known that you want to be heard and you want your thoughts and ideas to be considered on an equal level to everyone else’s. If you show others your ideas and thoughts matter, they will be more inclined to agree with you and you’ll get your way.

5.Take Turns!

If you want to get your way sometimes because your significant other, son, daughter, sister, friend or colleague always gets their way, set some rules and compromise. Why not take turns? One person chooses this Friday night’s activity and you get to choose the next. Usually this is the easiest way to get your way. The art of compromising goes a long way.

“Don’t hesitate to put yourself and your needs first.  All else will fall into place.” 

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