The tradition of marriage is one of the most common practices found in human behavior, no matter where in the world or when in the world you happen to be. For thousands of years people have partnered up to strengthen family ties, keep land in the family, to reproduce, and for a variety of other reasons.
Despite marriage’s roots, it has been a practice that many people, men and women alike, have felt pressured into. Our present-day views of marriage take a lot more emotion into consideration- the idea of marrying for love is a relatively modern concept. We are entering into an age where men and women can choose to be married or not to be married- there is equal merit to being in a committed relationship without being married, being single, or being married. Society has told us that getting married is the ideal, and yet more of us are choosing to remain single or partner up without entering into a legal commitment with one another.
There are advantages and disadvantages to almost every circumstance in life. If you are single, you wonder what it would be like to find a special someone. If you are married, you might be distracted by the idea that you could be with one person for the rest of your life. If you’ve been with your partner for a longer span of time, you might be wondering what happens next.
There has been a significant body of research conducted on relationships of all sorts. Early research suggested that married couples lived longer and were happier; however, replicant studies have shown that cohabitating couples might be happier than the average married couple over the long term.
Despite what the studies say, the best way to take control of your life is to know yourself. Some people are happy being single and know that relationships don’t define their purpose in life. Other people very much value the commitment that a marriage represents. That paper, that ring, and that ceremony are important to them, so they get married. Other partnerships are long lasting and secure, committed without having to host a wedding to prove it.
Not being true to yourself, your wants, and your needs is ultimately what causes unhappiness in your life. No matter where you are in life, don’t let society or other people pressure you into anything. Love and relationships come to us in their own time, and you don’t want to settle for the wrong partner.
In the end, marriage is a choice for many of us. We can choose to marry or to stay single; we can choose to love our life partner regardless of whether we attend the ceremony or not. Your happiness comes from knowing yourself and knowing your purpose in life, refusing to compromise.