Love is a balancing act. You need humor and responsibility, compromise and integrity. There needs to be mutual respect and a partnership, in addition to love and passion. We can often fall in love with the wrong people at the wrong time, when they aren’t ready for a relationship or when we aren’t ready for one.
There are a few ways to know if you are in a mature relationship versus an immature relationship. Immature relationships can happen no matter how old you are, and mature relationships can also be a situation that you work toward intentionally.
One hallmark of a mature relationship is discussing issues and problems face to face. Immature couples will fight over social media or break bad news to one another over text; this is a poor way to communicate with your partner and shows them that you really don’t care too much about them.
People in mature relationships know that arguments, fights, and bad news happens. They are prepared to discuss difficult things with one another in a mature, respectful way. They love one another, which is why they can sit down and talk together with the goal of bettering the relationship, not harming it.
Immature relationships leave both parties wanting more. You want more communication with your partner, more affection, more trust, more love; mature relationships are two people looking at one another and learning about giving the other person what they need, when they need it.
Immature relationships are constantly striving for acceptance, constantly trying to fill the void that the relationship itself is causing. Mature relationships allow people to fit together like a puzzle piece, complimenting each other’s strengths and weaknesses. You have an ease and comfort with one another that comes from time and contentment.
Mature relationships are secure; problems are dealt with together, and questions find their answers within the relationship. Immature relationships are full of doubts, of questions, of insecurity.
Mature relationships are two people agreeing to love and work together, while an immature relationship ends up with two people trying to function as one. They end up forgetting who they are as people instead of bringing their strength and light to the relationship as unique individuals.
Ultimately, mature relationships are about two people working towards what makes the other person happy. You two face life together as a united front, solving problems and loving each other through the good times and the bad.
Mature love is knowing yourself and knowing your partner and having goals together. You are working to create a life together that is fulfilling and peaceful, having adventures with one another and supporting each other. You each have pasts and struggles that can be healed and faced together. This partnership isn’t always easy, but it is worth it.
People in immature relationships are trying to find themselves and are seeking that in another person. However, two people still looking for themselves can’t form a functional partnership together. There is too much room for jealousy, anger, and frustration in immature relationships.
Mature relationships know that there’s no timeline for your love- your relationship is unlike any other. You two can decide when the right time is to move in together, to fall in love, to get married, or to do anything else in regards to your relationship.
We can’t fix our pasts, but we can influence how we react to our present and our future. If you are looking for a mature relationship, make sure you are ready for one. You need to know what you want and who you are in order to attract a partner who brings the same qualities to the table.