Would You Rather be Miserable than Alone?
Why is being alone worse than being miserable in a bad relationship? The reality is that if your relationships sucks, you’re going to make a lot of people miserable, including you, your partner, your family and your friends. If you’re sticking with them because you’re afraid to be alone, well guess what, you’re already alone. It’s time to shake things up!
There are irrefutable signs that a relationship sucks and as hard as you try to ignore them, they just won’t go away. The people around you recognize these irrefutable signs too. And they know that behind closed doors, things are a lot worse.
• There is emotional unavailability and utter disrespect between you
• Communication between you happens less often and only on a need-to-know basis
• You constantly feel like you’re walking on eggshells
• You can’t remember the last time the two of you went out together or even laughed about something together
• There is little or no real intimacy of any kind between you
There are all kinds of justifications for staying in a bad relationship. People just don’t want to be alone. Other reasons range from selfish (their partner takes care of them financially) to sacrificial (because they have kids together), but trust me, you aren’t doing anyone any favors, least of all yourself. Whatever your fear (dying alone, having no money, suffering children or never finding love again), know that your future isn’t set in stone. Unless you’re a psychic, you don’t know what your future holds for you. Instead of thinking about how hard things will be when you leave them, you need to focus on the bigger picture, which includes a happier, more independent you.
“For some people, taking the abuse is better than being alone.” –
Take a Flying Leap
Many people believe that they can’t make it on their own. So even though they are emotionally exhausted, they feel it’s still better than being alone. If you’re miserable, being alone is better than being emotionally exhausted and feeling unloved. Because you don’t know what’s ahead, you’ll have to take a leap of faith—faith in yourself. It’s scary, but it’s worth it.
If you recognize the signs of a bad relationship, it’s time to fall back in love with yourself. Polish up that pride of yours and make that leap into your new and improved future! Inside, I know you have what it takes. You just have to believe in yourself.
It Takes Two
If you think your relationship sucks, there’s a good chance your partner feels the same way. Talk it out and try counseling. You could work your way back to happiness, but the longer you wait, the less hope there is for reconciliation. It takes two people to make a relationship work. If your partner won’t do the work, you need to move on. You deserve to have a relationship that is mutually respectful, loving and devoted. How can you possibly settle for anything less?
Here Are Some Signs!
Your Best Friends Hate Him
This is the absolute biggest red flag ever! Your best friends know you better than anyone else in the world. They know your past, your secrets, your likes and dislikes. Obviously if they hate your boyfriend, then you’ve got a problem. Your friends want you to be happy, and they have your best interest at heart, so they can usually tell when a guy is wrong for you before you can.
Hanging out with family can be a little overwhelming, and some people aren’t too excited about it, but they should still try to show some interest. If your boyfriend moans and complains every time he has to see your family, then you should be offended by that. Your family is important, and even if they’re a little crazy or intense, your boyfriend should feel honored that you want him to spend time with those who are closest to you.
He Gets Mad When You Make Your Own Plans
Any good boyfriend would encourage his girlfriend to hang out with her friends and have girls nights to catch up on life. Does your boyfriend encourage you to spend time with friends, or does he give you a hard time about it?If he gives you a hard time then he’s obviously possessive and wants you all to himself. If your boyfriend shows signs of being possessive or controlling, that could be a sign of emotional abuse, and in some cases, a precursor to physical abuse.
People Say You’ve Changed
Okay, if people are telling you you’ve changed since you started dating this guy, then something’s wrong there. A relationship should bring you up and make you happier than before — not the other way around. If people are commenting on your negative mood, or saying that you’re not the same person anymore, then definitely take that information into account.
Seriously, it’s really not worth your time to date someone like this. If you find yourself constantly making excuses for your boyfriend, or defending his actions, then it’s probably time you realize he’s not someone that you want in your life. It might be difficult in the beginning, but pretty soon you’ll realize how much better off you are without him.