Ending a relationship is difficult. We don’t want to hurt our partner’s feelings, but we also can’t see ourselves continuing on in a relationship that we don’t feel comfortable in. All too often we stay in bad relationships because neither party wants to break up, so the cycle of misery continues.
If you know you need to get out of a toxic relationship but aren’t sure where to start, here are a few tips for ending a relationship:
- Plan your way out. You might find yourself in a place where you share a house, have kids, or other mutual belongings that make it hard to leave. Even if you share these important things with your partner, sometimes it’s more important to your heart and your health to be apart. If you are planning a breakup, be sure to have a way out. Have a place to stay, money saved up, and a plan for what happens after the breakup.
- Figure out how to break up. It’s more than just sending a casual text or calling them on the phone; you have to make sure that you break up in a way that gets your point across without being mean. All relationships are different, and we all break up in different ways. Your partner deserves a face to face discussion with you about the relationship and why you want to leave. Be gracious, graceful, and firm in your breakup.
- Know when to run. If you are in an abusive relationship, find yourself a safe place to get out of that situation. Your physical and mental wellbeing are the most important things.
Every breakup is different because all of our relationships are unique. Remember that love, real love, isn’t supposed to be difficult. You know when you meet the right person not because there aren’t challenges, but because you and your partner are united together.
When you do get yourself out of a toxic relationship, remember to never return to that place or that person again. You deserve all the love in the world and should never settle for anything less.
Some relationships are worth fighting for. We all struggle and have moments where we aren’t sure if we’re with the right person or not; in these moments, weigh your options and think about it. You might just realize that sticking it out is worth it. In the case of a toxic relationship, be sure to get out as soon as possible. Life is too short to be with the wrong person.