All too often we find ourselves living a different version of our life than we want to. We follow other people down life’s paths, forgetting that it is up to us to live our own journey. We think that following other’s paths will bring us happiness, while the true happiness comes from fulfilling our own purpose for our lives.
Ask yourself what you want out of life. Do you want to get married and have kids, or is that just what others expect of you? Do you want to travel the world, or are you just collecting interesting pictures for social media? How engaged are you with your life and with your idea of what you want to do and who you want to be?
In order to live the life you want, you have to be intentional. You have to intentionally ask yourself what you want, what your goals are, and how you can achieve those goals. It can be easy to blame others for your failures or your unhappiness, and all too often we fall into this trap. Acknowledging that you are in charge of your life is the first step in realizing that you can change it for the better.
You also control your reactions to life’s situations and difficult people around you. You can’t control life or others’ behavior, but you can control how you perceive those situations. Rather than leaving life up to chance and waiting for life to change on its own, do what you can to change your circumstances. If you can’t change the circumstances, change how you react to them.
So many of us have been caught up in relationships that weren’t right, in jobs that didn’t fit us, silently miserable for days or months on end. Unfortunately, many of us have succumbed to the expectations of society and the people around us when it comes to leading the lives we want to live. Trying to please others and do things the ‘right’ way only leads to frustration and unhappiness. Refocus on what makes you happy; only this way can you truly benefit others.
In order to create the life you want to live, you have to be open to growing and changing in uncertain circumstances. By getting out of your comfort zone you can begin to become the person you’ve always wanted and needed to be. Identify what is stopping you from living the life you want to live and then bust through those challenges like the powerful being you are. You are worthy, you are good enough, and you deserve to live a life that makes you happy.