It is common knowledge that guys think women talk too much, call too often and are too sensitive when it comes to their feelings. Men also think that the groups you hang out in are too large, we don’t understand what you all do in the bathroom together and we are amazed at the amount of food in your refrigerator that only has one bite (or sip) left. We’ve only just begun to scratch the surface of what runs through a guy’s mind as he gets to know you. As a matter of fact, here are six common thoughts the men in your life have probably had about you:
You’re too Hard to Get
Men may be hunters, but most prefer their prey to come wandering through their campground. Studies suggest that playing hard to get works best when it is mostly an illusion. In other words, you want your guy to understand your value, but extend him some leniency during his pursuit. This will lend him just enough reward to taste the fruits of his efforts and encourage him to continue his efforts.
In the initial stage of a good relationship, men are quite satisfied with the overall package. In fact, you might even say that you are perfect in his eyes. When a guy looks down the curves of a 1963 Split Window Corvette, he does not notice the bald tires, small scratch on the fender or dent near the door handle. He sees one of the finest machines that mankind has ever built. Well, his chosen partner is no different. However, there is one catch. You are only perfect until you start pointing out your flaws. This kind of negative thinking will stifle your confidence, intimacy and your ability to feel secure in your relationship. Your body image should not have a part in the function of your relationship, so don’t let it become a problem.
You’re Hot, Even When You’re Not Trying to be
If there was one piece of advice women need to understand, is that men do appreciate all the work that goes into your beauty. However, we also appreciate when you trust us enough to love you for who you are. In fact, surveys suggest that many men prefer women with minimal makeup, comfy pants and a button-down shirt. This wrapping is a heck of a lot easier to get off than lingerie, and we don’t feel like we have to handle you like porcelain.
“You don’t have to be beautiful or perfect to be loved.”
Why Won’t You Leave Me Alone?
A man is driven to improve himself, his career path and his relationships. When on is going well, he can focus on the other. For example, if work is going great, a man may ease up and spend more time with his lady. But if things aren’t going well, he may want to spend more time alone in his cave. Don’t invade his space if he wants to be alone, but let him know that you are there for him if he needs you. That way, he will seek you out when he needs you, rather than just hide from you and his troubles.
Why Don’t You Initiate Sex More?
A lot of men can’t understand why women don’t take advantage of their voracious sexual appetite. Surveys suggest that men often complain about their partner’s mojo and wish that she would take the reins more often in the bedroom. Some women may feel like it is emasculating to initiate sex with their partner, but the truth is initiating sex with your guy makes him feel wanted and attractive. It also makes him feel like you are taking an active role in the intimacy you share.
Don’t You Think I’m Sexy?
Believe it or not, compliments make men feel good too. Many women don’t know how to accept a compliment, especially if they don’t agree with what is being said about them. But most guys are wired to believe most positive comments, and they will fill up his ego like a balloon. To your benefit, compliments make a man more confident, happy and sure of himself. They also allow him to associate your presence with these feelings, which will help put a smile on his face whenever you are around.